Love as we have heard is a two way lane. Pick up a story, any fairytale that you must have read in your early childhood… was there anything like “one-sided” love? I don’t remember any, where one person kept loving another in isolation till eternity?
Lately, our generation is seeing a trend where unrequited love is being glorified. “Dude. What you did for her, nobody else will be able to match that ever.” “Girl, he knows you love him. And he is so lucky to have you by his side.” “Your love has no match. It inspires us.” I heard this and I was like “Hold on!” On whose side are you guys even at? Did you just appreciate the act of self-less love by your friend for someone who doesn’t even deserve that kind of an act or love or support? If you have ever did this, then stop.
The minute you appreciate these wasted efforts, you help them take another step into their self-destructive journey. There is nothing glorifying or beautiful about an unrequited love. When someone tells you “Babe, I like you…a lot but I am not sure where we are headed or what will happen to us. I want us to be together but there are too many things.”
When you appreciate and glorify this one-sided or unrequited love of your friend answer for the above lines comes out to be “That’s fine. It is not your fault, loving you is my choice and my love for you will make things fall into place, I will love you till eternity.” If you do not see how alarming this is, then my friend you are missing out on the major point of your life. Why on earth would you want to be with someone who is unsure about you? Why would you want to make things better when the person is already giving up on you? And why, answer me it is “only your” responsibility to make him/her happy and confident about what you guys have is special. If it is special, it has to be for both of you. The answer should have been “Babe, I love you. But I can stop loving you. I was sure about us, but if you are not then I am definitely sure that I deserve better.
People don’t realize a love like this takes a lot of courage to carry forward. A love like this, will cut you open in so many ways, the healing might never happen. A love like this is a short lived glory. The Love-story becomes someone else’s. You are free to cherish the memories you guys share. Feel free to pass a smile if you ever cross paths but that should be it. The person you have fallen in love with, I am not sure what they do deserve. But I can tell you that you deserve more than all this pain, embarrassment and all this hurt you are willing to put yourself into for.
That person is not even going to be there till end of your life, so stop wasting the good energy around them. Every person put on this earth have right to love and be loved in return. When you sign up for unrequited love you keep yourself away from the right to happiness and that is one of the meanest things that one can ever do to themselves. So, next time, whether someone is sure about you or not, I want you to be sure of yourself and believe that you deserve better…anything but happiness!
